No matter what the age of your adolescent, as you reflect back upon the year, there are high points and low points in your parenting. It is like you need a whole new playbook as you encounter hormone swings and changing brain function.

This new year will also present its own unique collection of challenges, but I want to encourage you. We are not always going to have the correct answer or insight in our parenting, but what is most important is the way we love our child. This is a time for unconditional love for them and for ourselves.

They are grateful you are on their side and doing your best to guide them through the tumultuous waters of adolescence. They will likely not tell you now, but in those moments when you get a hug or one of those cute approving expressions, know all is well. They love you and understand how much you are trying to make the right choices.

The real challenge is to forgive yourself for angry words and frustration that most parents of adolescent’s experience. Apologize if you have been abusive with your words or actions and then move on. What is important is that you learn from the unpleasant times and grow along with your adolescent.

The new year is upon us and it brings a new day for you as a parent. Embrace it.