If you have an 8-10-year-old son, ask yourself these questions:
- Is my son a little more emotional than in the past?
- Is my son arguing more when I disagree with him?
If your answer to either of these questions is “yes,” you are beginning to see the early signs puberty.
Parents have a tendency to wait as long as possible to teach their sons about the changes coming with puberty. Sadly, they might not even try if their son pushes back on their efforts to teach him.
We can change that so easily. First, let’s remember that your son feels the same insecurities that a young girl might feel as her body begins to change. The challenge in teaching our sons is often overcome by teaching him in small pieces rather than one “big talk.” It is also a good idea to make the talks feel more like a casual talk while you are doing something else together. I recommend a 7-minute chat. This is about how long you will be able to hold his attention.
It is also important to start having these small chats as early as 8 years old. He will be a little more cooperative so you can get off to a good start. And, at 8 years old, he has probably not noticed too many changes yet.
As boys enter puberty, they begin to feel insecure about a lot of things, but especially about what is happening to their body. It will be so helpful to him to hear the words “this is normal” as often as possible.
It will be so much easier for you and your son if you give him a copy of my book, I’m a Boy, My Changing Body, to read on his own. It is written for 8-10 year old boys and will be a great resource for you to use so you think up 7-minute chats you can have with him over the two year time.